We know life is short. But what do we do about it to make it better? Days come and go, and many times they are wasted. I read an article recently that said, “You must look at each day as a gift you are given.” Joshua Becker www.becomingminimalist.com went on to say, “After all, some people may get more days than others, but each of us have been given this one.”
I recently attended a memorial service for a good friend’s daughter. Carolyn Varian, Memory Lane, has a daughter Debbie Rosso who was diagnosed with colon cancer at the beginning of this year. She took all the recommended treatments but she lost her brave battle September 27, 2016. Debbie was 51 years old, leaving a husband of 23 years, Tim as well as 2 children in their early 20’s. Carolyn is experiencing a parent’s worst nightmare.
This is proof that life is short for some but the rest of us are squandering away what previous time we have. I have some ideas that we can use to make the most of every day.
Stop Making Excuses: Quite often, we say, “I don’t have time.” Everyone has 24 hours in a day and it is up to us to decide how to use it. If necessary, write out a daily schedule for yourself. Work is usually on the schedule but beside that, schedule some time each day to be something you love. Even if it is just for 30 minutes. This is your time. Be sure to include family time. Your family needs to be nurtured. Your family is similar to a garden. It needs care to thrive and grow. Try to get up earlier. Mornings are often the most productive part of the day.
Eat Right And Exercise: People who eat right and exercise are happier, calmer and better equipped to handle their day according to all the studies. It is difficult to accomplish this at times but include it in your daily schedule. Experts say even 15 minutes per day of exercise is beneficial. Restaurants are changing their menus, including calorie counts, to help us make wiser choices. The fast food restaurants are also looking to make healthier changes to their menus as well. Keep healthy snacks at your desk. This will help curb your desire to run out and get that greasy hamburger.
Rest: Your mind and body need quality rest. Without rest, you cannot function day to day. It makes your mind sharper. Being sleep deprived can cause you to make mistakes and it certainly prevents you from enjoying your day. Decompress at bed time by reading, watching television or listening to music. This sets the stage for a restful sleep.
Exude Postivity: When someone is unhappy, there is a frown and body language that indicates a “mood.” When someone around you has an attitude, it rubs off on other people. You, by your actions, can bring people down. You need to stop this right now! Put that smile on your face, shoulders up and go forth. If you have trouble finding that “happy place,” think of all the things that you are thankful for. No more slouching. Say hello to all you see and remember people like to be complimented. Throwing out some kudos makes everyone happy. Look people in the eyes when you talk to them. They will be able to see your are a genuine and caring individual. If this is hard for you, there are many books on positive thinking. Make a stop at Barnes and Noble.
Worrying: Some of us have an endless list of worries. I am guilty of this. But what good is it doing me? NONE! Worrying takes up mental space and frankly, many of the things I worry about are not worth worrying about. The advice is “ let them go” A weight should lift from your shoulders. I am going to work in this and let you know how I do.
Reset: “Tomorrow is another day with great potential and opportunity,” Mr. Becker states. “Take 10 minutes each evening to clear the clutter and refresh your mind for the next day. Tomorrow’s self will thank you for it.”
“I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it.” A quote from Groucho Marx. Groucho can’t be wrong, can he?